Have you ever wanted to have a serious conversation with someone, and they did not? And no matter what you said, they would find a way to make it about something else. Then you've got yourself a clever opponent, and if you're able to find a way to keep them on topic, please contact me, and let me know how you did it.
One person wants to get to the bottom of the issue, one person wants to avoid the issue.
I feel like you're trying to avoid the issue. That's not a feeling.