I ask him to tell me what he's thinking. He tells me. It's entirely different from my perspective. ( I judge it as wrong). I tell him that he is wrong in his thinking. It seems that I didn't want to know what he was thinking. He's frustrated, I'm frustrated. I take a breath, I realize what I've done. I do the inner work I need to do that allows me to allow others to be themselves (Without my criticism). I apologize. He graciously accepts. We continue.
I like my man to express himself. (as long as he's expressing what I want him to say)